Lust is often viewed as a negative word. This stigma largely stems from religious teachings, cultural norms, media portrayals, and even our own guilt. While perspectives differ, lust to me has long been associated with images of violence or perversion. Yet, for nearly a decade, I’ve been working to shed this negative bias and understand lust more objectively: lust is simply desire—sexual desire. True sexual desire itself is not violent or perverse; rather, the conditions that suppress or distort it create violence and perversion. Ignoring or constantly distracting ourselves from our sexual needs is the real dysfunction.
Sex is not just a pastime or casual pleasure. It is a profound human need. I find it frustrating when it’s discussed as something trivial—a simple, feel-good activity with no deeper meaning. If that shallow view defines your sexual experiences, should you even be engaging in it, much less with someone you love? For me, the yearning for physical and emotional connection feels more like an emergency—a life-saving intervention for a deep internal wound than mere recreation. The pain of this absence can be as intense as severe withdrawal from addiction; both terrify me, yet both call to me with equal urgency.
I am a mess, and I wonder if anyone else grappling with loneliness or desire is any less fragmented. Writing honestly is a skill, a way to maintain sanity amid this chaos. Some may reject or mock this openness, but I challenge those who judge to reconsider. My experiences—and my flaws—are part of a universal human struggle to connect, sexually and spiritually.
There’s much more to say about the tangled interplay of sexual, spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical desires. Imagine a world where sexual violence is eradicated—not just from schools and workplaces but from our homes and hearts. A society mature enough to understand and meet its needs without harm or coercion, where empathy and compassion flourish, regardless of age. Although controversial, acknowledging the complexity of topics like pedophilia with empathy rather than ignorance is essential. Fear and reaction often cloud logic. Differentiating attraction, intention, and action is critical in building this understanding. Forgiveness where appropriate, justice where necessary—this balance is key to peace.
I didn’t plan to address these topics here, but I hope this transparency illuminates a difficult subject and fosters connection. I continue to search for the perfect partner to satisfy not just sexual desire but to complete the emotional and spiritual whole. There is still much to learn about desire, its role in our lives, and its potential to nurture deeper love and understanding. May it never consume us wholly, but instead be a source of mutual growth and healing.
COMING UP NEXT: Genders, Origins of Humanity, Birth, Chicken/Egg, Schwarzenegger / Devito, Eating, Energy and Reverse Quasars.
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